What makes you different? What is it that helps you stand out from the crowd? Why are you unique? Special?
If you’re like most people, the answers to these questions are going to be qualities about a person that cannot be seen, such as a sense of humor, superior intellect, philanthropic tendencies, a kind heart, a great cook, a supportive husband, a loving mother…the list of what makes us special could go on and on. If what we hold to be so important is invisible to the naked eye, why is it that when we look at another person, we draw conclusions based upon their appearance?
We have all heard the comments. Some of us may even admit to thinking them, or sharing them with others. Others may have even heard them (or thought them) about ourselves.
“Gosh, she is so thin…someone feed her a sandwich!”
“Check out that fat guy! He should really be eating a salad instead of that pizza!”
“Look at that avie’s tits! Those are ridiculous! Why would someone want to look that way on purpose?”
The problem is not in the words, though words are certainly hurtful. The problem lies in our way of thinking about people, and subsequently making judgments about them.
Lucie Bluebird, who some of you may know from her popular blog, Bluebird’s Song, recently began a terrific project to celebrate people of every shape and size called Project EveryBody. This Project represents Lucie’s personal struggle and her journey to accept herself for the person she is, not the size she is. (Click here to read Lucie’s story.) She began Project EveryBody as an art installation and is challenging us all to be consciously aware of body shaming. Even in Second Life we can help stop the judgement of others based on their appearance.
As a first challenge, Lucie has reached out to the blogging community and asked us to step outside our normal paradigm and explore an area of SL that is of interest, but that we have not yet explored. I accepted Lucie’s challenge, albeit a little late due to other commitments, and have explored Goth Del.
I have to say it was really interesting just looking for the clothes! I did not know where to go, but ended up at Grim Bros. based on some recommendations. I found this cute dress and some shoes, and then found the Wasabi Pills hair sitting in my inventory, begging to be worn. Before I knew it, I had found some make-up and was Goth’ing it up! Personally, the changes were not something I’d wish to experience every day. But it was fun to explore another side, even for a little while.
Stuff I’m Wearing
Dress, stockings and hat – Pensees from Grim Bros.
Shoes – Pensees from Grim Bros.
Hair – Emma Mesh hair in Black Coffee from Wasabi Pills
Cosmetics – Heavy Black/Red Eyes & Lips from Glamorize
Skin – Katya Porcelain from Izzie’s
If you are interested in learning more about Project EveryBody, you can follow the blog by clicking here. You can also follow Project EveryBody on plurk (click here), and on Flickr (click here).